January 16, 1989 is my birthday. That is, the day of my rebirth as a Christian.

I had gone to a Carman concert and although I was using drugs and living A terrible lifestyle, I felt the gentle tug of the Holy Spirit that night and gave my life to the Lord.

I began to make some changes in my life. I made the decision to throw away all of my metal music and I chose to listen to Christian music. It was kind of boring at first, but it grew on me in time. I didn’t attend church right away, which was a big mistake because the only influences in my life were my old friends. Almost all of them were unbelievers and the influence was, shall we say, less than Godly.

If I had heard, my  pastor, Brett Jones’ sermon on Jonah and kicking some folks out of your boat and the process of eliminating relationships in your life that are detrimental to your walk and family relationships, I would have been spared a lot of heartache and grief.

Friendectomy – The cutting off of relationships in your life of people that are not good for your marriage, your family life, and those who don’t embrace your walk with God. 

What I didn’t understand, at that time, is that “darkness and light don’t coexist.”

I was under the false belief that I had to be in relationship with everyone and as a Christian I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, even when I knew on the inside those relationships were wrong.

So what happened next was inevitable. I got drawn back into that world. And although I  professed to being a Christian, I lived as a non believer.

The Word of God says “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways” in James 1:8  and  further down in James God speaks directly to the double minded and says “Draw near to me and I will draw near to you, cleanse your hands and purify your hearts.” We simply cannot do that when our “friends” are pulling us back to the things of this world.

if you notice I put “friends” in quotations . Are they really your friends?

This is my litmus test.

  1. Do they enhance or disrupt my relationship with God?
  2. Do they promote unity and peace in my marriage or cause division?
  3. Do they make me a better father and person in general?

If the answer to any of these questions is no, it’s time for a friendectomy!

The message

2 Corinthians 6:14 Don’t become partners with those who reject God. How can you make a partnership out of right and wrong? That’s not partnership; that’s war. Is light best friends with dark? 15 Does Christ go strolling with the Devil? Do trust and mistrust hold hands? 16 Who would think of setting up pagan idols in God’s holy Temple? But that is exactly what we are, each of us a temple in whom God lives. God himself put it this way: “I’ll live in them, move into them; I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people. 17 So leave the corruption and compromise; leave it for good,” says God. “Don’t link up with those who will pollute you. I want you all for myself. 18 I’ll be a Father to you; you’ll be sons and daughters to me.” The Word of the Master, God





One thought on “Friendectomy?

  1. Spot on! I remember when all that was happening. It’s a journey. Oftentimes, the translation is not as neat or as cookie cutter as we would like, but it definitely happened. Keep writing on this blog. You have a thousand stories. You should write about oranges and sparrows one day! ☺️


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